You would think if Abraham came down from Mount Sinai fresh from a conversation with God these days, the chat would have been a skosh different, no?

Perhaps, the angel of the Lord would have mentioned the kerfuffle on MySpace, the mysteries of big-name religious figures refusing to follow like-minded folk on Twitter, the dangers of texting while driving and for the love of God (well, himself), why is Bristol Palin still on “Dancing With the Stars.”

Why people really join churchMost likely the first modern Commandment would have something to do with privacy rights on Facebook.

Well, meet Rev. Cedric Miller of New Jersey – a pastor who believes the forbidden fruit had a QWERTY keyboard and came with status updates.

A New Jersey pastor [of Living Word Christian Fellowship] is giving his married church leaders an ultimatum: delete Facebook or resign

…“One or the other spouse is on Facebook and reconnects with an old flame,” Miller said. “It’s even gone to the point where there have been inappropriate reconnections.”

It’s interesting what the leering media finds newsworthy. Somehow, someone heard about these conditions and decided to make this “a mountaintop experience.” And this thing has come across the globe like the buzz about a certain burning bush.

So, here’s the question: Is he right?

Yes, there are many people in this world that use Facebook to reconnect with folk from back in the day or to keep in touch with people today. However, for all those who like to corral contacts for their personal ego storehouse, there are many, many more that use this web portal for hook ups with those flames that have never been put out.

Answer: Yes.

Because as we have seen with serving the Kingdom, you have to err on the side of extreme caution because if you don’t, there is certain to be a snare with your name all over it.

Ask any megachurch pastor that have been in headlines lately. Sex, philandering, getting frisky… and why? Because they have power and they can.

This pastor doesn’t have the recognition, at least he didn’t at the time of the ultimatum, but he wanted his staff to serve the Lord wholeheartedly nonetheless. If you think Pastor Miller doesn’t have to go far for proof, you’re right:

The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers says 81 percent of its members have used or been faced with evidence plucked from Facebook, MySpace, Twitter and other social networking sites in divorce cases over the last five years.

About one in five adults uses Facebook for flirting, according to a 2008 report by the Pew Internet and American Life Project. And a do-it-yourself divorce site in the United Kingdom, Divorce-Online, reported late last year that the word “Facebook” was appearing in about one in five of the petitions it was handling.

Again, this site was made for online booty calls and many people, including My Fair Lady, use Facebook to speak with family across the country who are too lazy to write an e-mail and too distant to pick up a phone.

If I was in that ilk working at Living Word, I would be both offended and armed with a myriad of examples to tell this pastor what is up. However, if I was a person who hid my Facebook account from my spouse, sent clandestine status reports and was looking for that one sheep that got away, then good on the pastor for bringing this up.

Then again, it’s not guns that kill people… people kill people, right? So, it’s not Facebook that’s killing marriages… shady fools who should have never been engaged kill marriage. They just use Facebook quite a bit to do it.

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  4. Bene D says:

    Guess he forget to tell some of the church folk about his past. The short version:

    Facebook ban draws world wide attention.
    Pastors past goes public.
    Church meeting.
    Pastor takes a leave of absence.

    http://tinyurl.com/3ah3tod

  5. jakeelliot says:

    ” The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers says 81 percent of its members have used or been faced with evidence plucked from Facebook, MySpace, Twitter and other social networking sites in divorce cases over the last five years.

    About one in five adults uses Facebook for flirting, according to a 2008 report by the Pew Internet and American Life Project. And a do-it-yourself divorce site in the United Kingdom, Divorce-Online, reported late last year that the word “Facebook” was appearing in about one in five of the petitions it was handling.”

    Freaky! That is so revealing… I actually put that on my Facebook wall for others to read.

  6. Pamela says:

    If people were not already having marriage problems, this would be a non-issue. If people want to cheat they will find ways. Deleting a Facebook account will not stop them. This is an issue of the heart, not the typing of fingers. People have cheated on their spouses for thousands of years long before social networking became common place. Of course if people know that they might have a problem with using Facebook by all means get off of there. Many of my Facebook friends go off for a time or have deleted their accounts because they became too absorbed in it. THAT IS NOT EVERYONE USING SOCIAL NETWORKS.

    I felt the man was way out of line to threaten people with losing their jobs and/or positions if they did not delete their Facebook account. I thought it was absolutely dreadful. I wondered where else did he exert undue control over the people. I could understand if we were dealing with a Biblical issue but to make a blanket judgment that people using Facebook would commit adultery is just plain wrong. When his own foibles were revealed I can understand. BUT he does NOT have the spiritual authority to be so autocratic about such am overreaching edict as that was. I told my husband that if he agreed that if I heard any kind of edict or flesh filled controlling command like that I would leave there in a hurry never to return. I am not a rebellious person as such. At the same time I am not going to let a preacher demand anything that is not clearly stated in the Bible. If he tries I am out of there for good glad to have freed myself from prison.

  7. BrotherK says:

    Brother Scrivener,

    You know I love you, but I think the thing that the mainstream press may have caught wind of with this Pastor’s story was “the stench of mendacity.” To wit:

    http://www.app.com/article/20101120/NEWS/101119142/Pastor-who-banned-Facebook-had-three-way-sex-affair

    Sorry I don’t know how to make it a hotlink but those willing to do so may C&P in their browser and read the whole sorry thing for themselves. It doesn’t matter if the Pastor’s assessment of Facebook is correct, in the world’s view he has no moral high ground to preach from…

    • hiscrivener says:

      Yeah, to be completely candid. I found the story a couple of days ago, was intrigued and planned to write a blog post on it. I did… and after I published, I get to work and see his admission of a four-way. To delete or not to delete – that is the question.

      The guy has no more respect than if Tiger Woods started giving me marriage advice – or counsel on porn addiction.

      I did appreciate a man in the pulpit speaking out on what I am sure is a serious (although somewhat hidden) issue in the Church. Now if only someone else in the Church would say that who didn’t have a swingers’ mentality, we may get somewhere. :)

      (And always appreciate you stopping by and standing a post. Peace my brother)

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